I got a phone call from a guy I "dated" a while back. We hadn't been in touch in a while (almost 3 years) and it seemed that perhaps we would take another shot at getting to know each other. Little did I know - He has a live in situation with a three year old!!!!!!! I was shocked and appalled that he would think that I would be interested in getting involved with him on those terms. When I immediately shot his little fantasy down, I could tell he was crushed and immediately thought it had something to do with his performance... Baby, for real, get a clue. I wouldn't care if you made me faint, see stars and call on the Lord, it couldn't entice me to encroach on another woman's territory. Period.
I guess he wasn't use to getting that response (although he swore that this was the first time he attempted to venture outside of his relationship - yeah right) because he insisted that we had this chemistry that couldn't be denied... LMAO!! .
I just hope that there are some men out there that are sincerely unattached and willing to be honest with not only me, but themselves... 'Cause although a sista is looking, she is not willing to compromise her ethics and/or morals for a man.
Plus, Karma is a bitch in Manolo Blahnik high heels waiting to step on your dreams if you put it out there like that.... It makes me wonder though, how many women are willing to settle for a piece of a man. How many women devalue themselves as being worthy of a love of their own? Damn, it must be many many women out there that will do that and it means that we not only disrespect ourselves but each other... Where is the sisterhood ladies? We can do better. I have never laid eyes on this man's woman but it doesn't matter, I knowof women who have slept with their best friend's man!! Was it worth it? And if he does it to her, won't he do it to you? What really makes you different?
Maybe it's because I am older and wiser but I can spot a man who is not being real with himself from a mile away and if he can't be real with himself, how can be be real with me??? (or you??)